I started drinking seriously when I was about 13 in 1984 and then stayed pretty much drunk until the age of 37. It will be years before you can do anything with this land.
I quit in 2008 after I nearly died a couple of times; I was in so much pain with my liver that I had to roll out of bed onto the floor each morning and couldn’t even bend over to tie my own shoe laces. The water was merely the stuff that was making this area look picturesque.
There are all kinds of disclosure-dilemmas one has on meeting new people.
Whether it be AA Singles, NA Singles, Al-Anon Singles, GA, OA…
But once the water has gone you are faced with the former town that was initially flooded and the now wrecked buildings which need to be pulled down. After kicking booze, I moved directly onto the next most pressing issue for me: depression, initially with the help of CBT therapy and medication and more recently with exercise, meditation and diet.
And then I tackled other issues caused by mental illness, including anxiety, rage, and hypochondria.
Honest background-disclosure is a great way for people to connect and get a feel for who the other is — but there will inevitably be some aspect of everyone’s past which they fear will give others the wrong impression.
This is one of the major issues faced by former addicts. It’s a tricky situation — but the essential thing is to never feel forced by shame or remorse into disclosing something. If you are not in control, then you are (once again) essentially being ruled by the addiction.